I love men, I really do. I love having men friends because I can be myself and because they make me laugh. But there are some men who completely have me baffled by their confusing behavior. Just when I think I understand them, they change into someone else, someone I don't know. Argh!
Last week was spent in New Mexico at a workshop with a male colleague. This is someone with whom I will team teach beginning this year. We drove down together...6.5 hours in a vehicle, ate most meals together, sat in a workshop together, went sightseeing together, and drove home together. That's a great deal of together time. In that time, we were able to learn more about one another, sharing personal stories, laughs, and some tragedies. In my woman's brain that means we're 'friends.' However, since we've been back--and we have some work still to do--I feel like he's blowing me off. It's not like I'm constantly texting, emailing, or calling him. I don't even know where he lives! I've simply tried talking to him about work stuff (and one personal item), and he's responded kindly but with a definite tone of "leave me alone."
I talked to my husband about this situation and the feeling I have, the feeling of rejection. I figured his male brain might be able to decipher what has happened with my colleague since we've been back. Hubby's advice? My colleague probably wants to spend time with his family and to not worry about it. Not worry? Seriously? Me? I worry about everything.
I guess my idea of friendship and my colleague's idea of friendship are dissimilar. I need to think more like a guy, to relax, and to not worry. If only I could tell my female brain to shut down!
